Love attracts?

If you are ever trying to get rid of a lover tell them "you love them". It works magically,Now if that's too dramatic or heavy for your style, you can break it down to a payment plan! use softer more indirect words of your choice. It still works... They may not run but rather walk from you!
we do this all the time consciously and subconsciously, it seem like a sincere logical and emotional response. It may seem counter productive to linear reasoning and human expression.
In order to maximize our growth and enhancing our life experiences we always seek what we don't have and try to attract what we don't have and naturally are atracted to what we don't have so by hearing the magical "I love you" phrase we automatically feel we have the person on our side unconditionally, It may feel like an achievement of receiving a trophy or reaching a mile stone but it also comes with a feeling of attachment that could be limiting to the remaining parts of your journey through life.
The conclusion here is not "not to love" or express being in love, but its trying to see and understand your counter part wholisticaly meaning the whole being including the heart, mind and primal animal like qualities. By expressing love we may satisfy the heart and confuse the mind and by not expressing at all you might empty the heart and frustrate the mind.